shaming well off blacks

Have you ever noticed how certain members of the black community will try to shame well off or successful black people for supposedly not helping the black community, but don’t have a damn thing to say about the trifling knee-grows out here tearing down the black community???


Take a second to think about it…


How many times have you heard an African American say something along the lines of this...


“Oprah, Bill Cosby, and so-and-so need to do more to help the black community. They don’t do damn near as much as they could. Instead of rebuilding Africa they need to be rebuilding the black community right here in the United States.”


While on the flip side, how often do you ever hear black people say something along the lines of…


“ This chick right here need to keep her damn legs close, stop sleeping with deadbeats, and Pookie need to take his dried up sperm shooting ass to school instead of sitting on the porch all day smoking weed and grabbing his nuts.”


When do you ever hear black people criticize those black folks who contribute THE MOST to the black communities’ problems? Hardly ever! Yet these same people will tear down a successful black person in a heartbeat if they aren’t doing what is deemed appropriate by the crabs stuck in the barrel.


“He is not doing enough! She is not black anymore. She don’t even support black people anymore,” is the crap they spew, but they rarely ever say anything about Pookie and Ms. Fertile.


I don’t get it!


Where are the shaming tactics for those who are screwing us up the most? Where is their criticism of black on black crime, rape/domestic violence against black women, and the number of out of wedlock births in the black community? Why are Pookie and Mrs. Fertile given a pass for their SELF-INFLICTED nonsense, but upper crust African Americans are called out for some B.S. they are not obligated to fulfill or even promised to fulfill?


This is the kind of crap that pisses me off. As a young black woman, who is working hard to get where I want to be in life, it makes me angry to know some trifling knee-grow is somewhere feeling entitled to my success once I reach the peak simply because we share race. I imagine this must be how well off white people feel every time a white liberal or some black progressive says something along the lines of, “it is our job to help these people…the rich aren’t paying their fair share of taxes” or “we are owed for slavery.” SMH!


Anyone who reads this blog should know I don’t have a problem helping those black people who are working to help THEMSELVES. However, no one has the right to guilt trip me (or anyone else), harass me, or bully me into helping him or her out of some twisted sense of entitlement. I’m selective about the individuals I help. That is my right. I’m selective about the individuals I pity. That is my right. Your race doesn’t mean crap to me if I see that you are NOT trying to help yourself.


Who is throwing the shaming tactics at well off blacks?


Most often in my experience the shaming tactics thrown at well off blacks are coming from those black folks who are POOR and who make the POOREST DECISIONS/CHOICES in life. It’s important to note that all poor black people do not share the mentality of those outlined here, do not feel entitled/owed anything, and do not try to shame well off black people into helping them. Most often the shaming tactics are NOT coming from those who are middle/upper class. The only time you hear a middle/upper class African American trying to shame well off black people is when they…

Subscribe to some misguided notion that the poor African Americans making idiotic choices should be shown some empathy (i.e., Freeman) though a pattern of idiotic behavior can often be established.
They, themselves, come from that environment and sympathize with those living in those conditions.


Otherwise those who fit into the following are the main individuals throwing the shaming tactics (key phrase)…

Black Men/Women who have children out of wedlock.
Those who most often have little to no education and no desire to reach for something better.
Ex-Cons.
Generations of welfare cases.
Those who spend their money on bullshit like weave, rims, cars, and general crap.
Those, who, if you looked into their background have fucked THEMSELVES over in life by doing things like selling crack cocaine or committing other crimes.
Those working dead end jobs or find themselves stuck in the rat race.
Those who have no ambition to help themselves.
Those who sit around blaming everyone else except themselves for their plight.
Those who have become complacent in life and don’t seek anything more if it involves hard work and dedication.
This list could go on and on.

Now because these are the main people throwing the shaming tactics they don’t bother to self-reflect and criticize themselves and the things they’ve done that have contributed to being stuck in their piss poor environment. In their minds they are OWED something and because the days of guilt tripping whites are almost over they have turned their attention to those black people who are successful, but believe it or not they are not the MAIN problem here (key phrase)…


In my opinion the majority of the blame goes on those middle/upper class black people who sympathize/empathize with poor African Americans and believe the same thing about well off African Americans coming in and uplifting those who screw themselves over. This minority group of middle/upper class blacks enable poor African Americans’ behavior by sympathizing with them instead of looking at their actions and the way they have ineffectively managed their lives. They don’t frequently call out the nonsense they see with poor blacks. Instead they coddle them and excuse their actions as…
A reaction to their piss poor and morally dilapidated environment.
A reaction to being poor and denied access to quality education.
A reaction to a racist/oppressive society.


Sound familiar? ( Here)


This describes what I most often call a black progressive on this blog. Because those who are poor often can’t effectively express their sense of entitlement and have no platform (other than the internet) to do so…it’s these middle/upper class black progressives who do their talking for them. They in exchange gain things like money and political power. The fact that many of them have come out of the very same environment and achieved success is pushed to the back of the black progressive’s mind in order to excuse/emphasize/sympathize with those tearing the black community down. Oh they are quick to call out everyone else on their supposed nonsense, but they don’t have a damn thing to say about the MAIN people tearing down the black community.


Then there is the fear of our dirty laundry hitting the face. Black progressives will overlook anything done to the black community by members of the black community if it means the national media doesn’t catch news of the story. Because they have a platform to speak on these things they choose not to step up for fear of “others” listening and a fear of loosing what they have gained (money and political power). Those black people who dare to call a spade a spade are roasted. For some odd reason it almost never occurs to the black progressive that a non-black person can turn on the nightly news and see black people’s dirty laundry everyday.


Now here is the twist…


The very people (successful African Americans) who are shamed into helping those “less fortunate” are told to put up and shut up. They can help in terms of giving their time, energy, and donating money, but they are NOT welcome to criticize or point out any of the obvious bullshit they see with the very people they are shamed into helping. In other words, successful blacks are told to give, but expected not to say a thing about the SELF-INFLICTED crap they see with the people who bring shame upon them for supposedly not helping the black community.


It’s okay for Bill Cosby to give his time, energy, and wealth to “less fortunate” black people but it is not okay for him to criticize the obvious flaws of those he’s trying to help. It is okay for Oprah to give her time, energy, and wealth to “less fortunate’ black people, but it is NOT okay for her to criticize the obvious nonsense of those she’s trying to help. If these successful black people didn’t give shit at all they would be dogged out. If they try giving what I consider constructive criticism they are dogged the hell out. So here they are damned if they do and damned if they don’t. The only time they are appreciated at all is when they hand over their hard earned money (to those who try to shame them…damn the rest of their charities) and ignore the crap they see with those they’re helping. Like I said on another post…any “well off” person with good sense would question some of the SELF-INFLICTED issues they see with those who are trying to shame them into helping, which is probably why most successful black people don’t bother with the black community.


Let me make this very clear…


The MAIN (key word) problem is not with those well off black people who run and stay away. The MAIN problem is with those who tear down the black community (along with those who defend/enable them) and expect other people to come in and fix THEIR SELF-INFLICTED MESS. You don’t build a house, do all the damage you can to it, and expect someone else to come in and be WILLING to fix it. Until black people get this idea that we are OWED something out of our heads (whether it be from members of our race or some other race) we are going to continue to slip through the cracks. My helping hand is extended to the black man and the black woman who are working to help themselves. The rest of the black folks can kiss my ass.